How Should You Craft Your First Message to a Prospective Date Online?

In this era of online dating, there are too many potential dates for you to choose from. Women and men from all around the world with different personalities and hobbies, as well as different things they’re looking for in a partner. If you are lucky enough to find someone you’re interested in, you find yourself facing another hurdle. How should you craft a good message to respond to someone’s profile page? How should you write a message that will interest your potential partner, and not cause them to lump your message in with the rest of the other sleazy ones he or she receives? We have a few tips for you.

However, let us be clear. This article is more suited for those looking for a long-time romantic relationship with someone they’re interested in online, and not for those of you who are just looking for a causal hook-up.

Read Their Entire Profile and Understand It

Get To Know Each Other Before You Meet In Person

Get To Know Each Other Before You Meet In Person

The first thing you should do is to read their entire profile. Yes, the whole thing all the way to the bottom. If you are truly interested in this person, you should not find it a chore as learning new things about your potential partner should not be boring. You should make sure you understand what is written on their profile, for instance, what are their hobbies and jobs, their dreams and ambitions and what they’re searching for in a partner. Doing this will allow you to have a fuller picture of your potential partner, and it gives you a chance to see if you are compatible even before you send the first message. Sometimes, you may end up messaging someone completely incompatible just because you like how they look in their profile photo. It is a terrible mistake to make.

Personalize Your Message to Their Profile

If you have read her entire profile and digested it, you should have no problem with this step. You should send a message that is specifically aimed at your potential partner’s interests and hobbies. If you do, you’re already better than half the people on the dating site who merely skim over their profiles and give generic “Hey Sexy” messages. You want to make them interested in you and your message.

Send A Personalized Message

Send A Personalized Message

Focus on two things you have learnt from their profile. For instance, if you find out they like to play tennis, you could mention that you play tennis as well, and maybe write a short paragraph on why you like to do so. There is no need to write an essay; just a couple of sentences will do. Of course, you should not lie for the sake of crafting this message. If they catch you lying, the consequences on your love life will be disastrous. Don’t go overboard in filling your first message with things you have learnt from their profile. This isn’t an exam; you don’t get points for remembering and regurgitating information. You’ll look like a desperate stalker in the eyes of your potential partner.

Don’t Tell Him or Her That They Look Good

This may seem strange to some of you, after all, why would you not compliment someone on their looks?

Don't Focus On Looks... Get To Know Your Potential Partner

Don’t Focus On Looks… Get To Know Your Potential Partner

Guess what, if you had thought of complimenting their looks, so will dozens of other people on the Internet. Chances are they’ll have gotten many messages about how hot they look, and most people will pair it with a lewd request. You do not want to lump yourself into this category. Unless the person in question is really unattractive, complimenting their looks is not going work. You should save the compliments until you meet them in person. If you do want to comment on something, you should comment on things like jewelry or their watches (if they are wearing any). Chances are this will start a conversation between the both of you as most people have stories about their favorite jewelry and watches.